Comments on: Why Doesn’t He Care? http://newsinglemama.com/153/why-doesnt-he-care/ I am a single mother of a biracial baby boy just trying to make it on my own. This journey is hard, yet rewarding. Blogging is my therapy, these words are my heart, and people doing better and being inspired by what I have written is my passion and hope. Thu, 12 Aug 2010 03:38:57 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/153/why-doesnt-he-care/comment-page-1/#comment-164 Bridgette Tue, 03 Mar 2009 05:18:26 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=153#comment-164 Thanks for the words of encouragement ladies. I really appreciate it :) Thanks for the words of encouragement ladies. I really appreciate it :)

]]> By: Danni http://newsinglemama.com/153/why-doesnt-he-care/comment-page-1/#comment-163 Danni Sun, 01 Mar 2009 00:56:13 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=153#comment-163 I was 17 and in high school when i got pregnant with my son (who is now 5). It's hard to not feel angry. I remember the first days after he left, and showed how much he "CARED." I had a Xanga at the time that I filled with angry rants and confusion. It wasn't until the day I gave birth to my son that I realized that none of my anger or confusion mattered. That I was the sole provider for this little man. I raised him on my own with a 40 hour a week job, going and finishing school (with my class). I felt that even if his "father" didn't care, I would show him that I did.. and that he could do anything he wanted to. It's been 5 years since I've heard from my son's father.. My anger, sadness and confusion have all left... I'm greedy now- glad and honored that I am the one my son loves and looks up to. Am I sad that his father isn't around- sometimes. I feel bad for my son.. But, at the same time- I realized he's better off without him. :) I hope that you get thru your situation.. Blessings to you both! Good luck! Ps. found you via Twitter. :) I was 17 and in high school when i got pregnant with my son (who is now 5). It’s hard to not feel angry. I remember the first days after he left, and showed how much he “CARED.” I had a Xanga at the time that I filled with angry rants and confusion. It wasn’t until the day I gave birth to my son that I realized that none of my anger or confusion mattered. That I was the sole provider for this little man. I raised him on my own with a 40 hour a week job, going and finishing school (with my class). I felt that even if his “father” didn’t care, I would show him that I did.. and that he could do anything he wanted to. It’s been 5 years since I’ve heard from my son’s father.. My anger, sadness and confusion have all left… I’m greedy now- glad and honored that I am the one my son loves and looks up to. Am I sad that his father isn’t around- sometimes. I feel bad for my son.. But, at the same time- I realized he’s better off without him. :) I hope that you get thru your situation.. Blessings to you both! Good luck!

Ps. found you via Twitter. :)

]]> By: Temi http://newsinglemama.com/153/why-doesnt-he-care/comment-page-1/#comment-162 Temi Sat, 28 Feb 2009 14:47:17 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=153#comment-162 So sad. Breaks my heart to see single parents. But I know evev unideal situations can be made into blessings. I hope the best for you and your baby and his father. Also makesnmenthink about why marriage is a big issue and means a lot to folks, tis the building block of society. Love P.s. This is very random followed from a "the real shaq" twitter post. So sad. Breaks my heart to see single parents. But I know evev unideal situations can be made into blessings. I hope the best for you and your baby and his father. Also makesnmenthink about why marriage is a big issue and means a lot to folks, tis the building block of society. Love

P.s. This is very random followed from a “the real shaq” twitter post.

]]> By: Heather http://newsinglemama.com/153/why-doesnt-he-care/comment-page-1/#comment-158 Heather Fri, 27 Feb 2009 02:03:22 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=153#comment-158 I started a journal for my daughter that I write very open, honest posts in 2-3 times per year (I plan to give it to her as an adult) and a have a baby blog that I update with cute stuff and milestones. A lot of moms scrapbook for their kiddos, which I wish I'd had time/resources to do. You can also check this out if you want a "real" baby book: http://www.adoptshoppe.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWPROD&ProdID=421 I can completely relate to your angst about those stupid baby books!!!! You definitely reserve to right to vent, vent, vent about your asshat ex whenever you need to. I started a journal for my daughter that I write very open, honest posts in 2-3 times per year (I plan to give it to her as an adult) and a have a baby blog that I update with cute stuff and milestones. A lot of moms scrapbook for their kiddos, which I wish I’d had time/resources to do.

You can also check this out if you want a “real” baby book:

http://www.adoptshoppe.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWPROD&ProdID=421

I can completely relate to your angst about those stupid baby books!!!!

You definitely reserve to right to vent, vent, vent about your asshat ex whenever you need to.

]]> By: Sara http://newsinglemama.com/153/why-doesnt-he-care/comment-page-1/#comment-156 Sara Thu, 26 Feb 2009 01:32:43 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=153#comment-156 I think you crawled into my mind and came out with every single thought I've had towards the father of my child during my pregnancy so far. My mom bought me a really cute baby book a few weeks ago I and I started bawling when I read through it because it was mommy and daddy everything. Its little things like that that make me upset. He's always on my mind but I've learned that you can't change his mind about it and instead of focusing on it all you can do is everything you can to get ready for your baby and to give that baby all the love you have. Hang in there and hopefully everything will just fall into its place :) Btw congrats on the baby boy! I"m glad you're having what you want. I think you crawled into my mind and came out with every single thought I’ve had towards the father of my child during my pregnancy so far. My mom bought me a really cute baby book a few weeks ago I and I started bawling when I read through it because it was mommy and daddy everything. Its little things like that that make me upset. He’s always on my mind but I’ve learned that you can’t change his mind about it and instead of focusing on it all you can do is everything you can to get ready for your baby and to give that baby all the love you have. Hang in there and hopefully everything will just fall into its place :)

Btw congrats on the baby boy! I”m glad you’re having what you want.

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/153/why-doesnt-he-care/comment-page-1/#comment-155 Bridgette Wed, 25 Feb 2009 23:09:18 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=153#comment-155 Welcome, Hannah! Strong Single Mommies FTW! Thanks for stopping by and complimenting me. I look forward to talking more with you in the future. Welcome, Hannah! Strong Single Mommies FTW!

Thanks for stopping by and complimenting me. I look forward to talking more with you in the future.

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/153/why-doesnt-he-care/comment-page-1/#comment-154 Bridgette Wed, 25 Feb 2009 23:08:00 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=153#comment-154 I don't plan on chasing him and it's rare that I think of him any more these days. But when I was filling out the book I was kinda forced to think about him, I thought of his attitude and the conversation or lack thereof we had a couple of weeks ago and I just got so pissed all over again. I fumed, I blogged, I threw my little tantrum and I feel better now. I know he's not worth a damn for my baby boy and he has nothing to offer, but his stank attitude and the fact that he gets away with it pisses me off sometimes! I don’t plan on chasing him and it’s rare that I think of him any more these days. But when I was filling out the book I was kinda forced to think about him, I thought of his attitude and the conversation or lack thereof we had a couple of weeks ago and I just got so pissed all over again.

I fumed, I blogged, I threw my little tantrum and I feel better now. I know he’s not worth a damn for my baby boy and he has nothing to offer, but his stank attitude and the fact that he gets away with it pisses me off sometimes!

]]> By: Hanna http://newsinglemama.com/153/why-doesnt-he-care/comment-page-1/#comment-151 Hanna Wed, 25 Feb 2009 22:29:04 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=153#comment-151 Hey there. Just another fellow single mom blogger here. Glad to find so many awesome blogs full of strength. Keep on keepin on, you're doing a great job. Hey there. Just another fellow single mom blogger here. Glad to find so many awesome blogs full of strength. Keep on keepin on, you’re doing a great job.

]]> By: Heather http://newsinglemama.com/153/why-doesnt-he-care/comment-page-1/#comment-150 Heather Wed, 25 Feb 2009 21:10:20 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=153#comment-150 You're right. He doesn't care. And I know that hurts. ESPECIALLY right now. But I PROMISE you, sweetie, things will be better in the long run if you just let him go. Cut him loose. It's not worth the struggle b/c he's obviously not in the right frame of mind and he obviously has nothing to offer YOUR son. Hang in there. I <3 the new blog, btw. You’re right. He doesn’t care. And I know that hurts. ESPECIALLY right now.

But I PROMISE you, sweetie, things will be better in the long run if you just let him go. Cut him loose. It’s not worth the struggle b/c he’s obviously not in the right frame of mind and he obviously has nothing to offer YOUR son.

Hang in there.

I <3 the new blog, btw.

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