Comments on: The Attack of Momzilla? http://newsinglemama.com/221/the-attack-of-momzilla/ I am a single mother of a biracial baby boy just trying to make it on my own. This journey is hard, yet rewarding. Blogging is my therapy, these words are my heart, and people doing better and being inspired by what I have written is my passion and hope. Fri, 18 May 2012 14:00:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Heather http://newsinglemama.com/221/the-attack-of-momzilla/comment-page-1/#comment-249 Heather Fri, 27 Mar 2009 23:59:47 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=221#comment-249 I agree! I agree!

]]> By: Heather http://newsinglemama.com/221/the-attack-of-momzilla/comment-page-1/#comment-248 Heather Fri, 27 Mar 2009 23:56:38 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=221#comment-248 I tried to only register for the things we really, really needed. I didn't want to add a bunch of frivilous stuff and risk not getting the things that were essential, ya know? My mom decided to register me for a bunch of silly junk and then duplicates of several things so that she'd be able to have the extras. Aub has never stayed with my mother and has only been in a car with her alone once, so it would have been ridiculous. My mother is pretty ridiculous, though! I tried to only register for the things we really, really needed. I didn't want to add a bunch of frivilous stuff and risk not getting the things that were essential, ya know?

My mom decided to register me for a bunch of silly junk and then duplicates of several things so that she'd be able to have the extras. Aub has never stayed with my mother and has only been in a car with her alone once, so it would have been ridiculous. My mother is pretty ridiculous, though!

]]> By: Stephanie http://newsinglemama.com/221/the-attack-of-momzilla/comment-page-1/#comment-245 Stephanie Wed, 25 Mar 2009 02:14:24 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=221#comment-245 I agree with the others in saying that it wont get better for a while!! My son is almost 3 and sometimes I feel like my parents think he's their son too!! They say things like "we" have to teach him this or that and it;s all how "we" raise him. Or if I say something to him its like it doesnt matter because if they say the opposite to him, then its fine!! Nothing pisses me off more!! He is MY child, and Im the one that got fat and gave birth to him. Maybe Im just being possesive of my child, but damn!! Sorry to ramble, but I feel for ya. Just remember that your little guy will know who the one is that takes care of him and provides for him, and in the end, your opinion is the only one that really matters!!! Hang in there honey!! You are doing great!!!!! I agree with the others in saying that it wont get better for a while!! My son is almost 3 and sometimes I feel like my parents think he's their son too!! They say things like "we" have to teach him this or that and it;s all how "we" raise him. Or if I say something to him its like it doesnt matter because if they say the opposite to him, then its fine!! Nothing pisses me off more!! He is MY child, and Im the one that got fat and gave birth to him. Maybe Im just being possesive of my child, but damn!! Sorry to ramble, but I feel for ya. Just remember that your little guy will know who the one is that takes care of him and provides for him, and in the end, your opinion is the only one that really matters!!! Hang in there honey!! You are doing great!!!!!

]]> By: Asha http://newsinglemama.com/221/the-attack-of-momzilla/comment-page-1/#comment-244 Asha Tue, 24 Mar 2009 14:44:03 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=221#comment-244 I don't think that it's ridiculous! The few brands that I do remember that stand up to TONS of use and abuse are Graco, The First Years, and Safety First. But I wanted to let you know that I'm available for advice or venting. I've probably already been there and screwed it up so I can tell you how NOT to do it, Lol I don't think that it's ridiculous! The few brands that I do remember that stand up to TONS of use and abuse are Graco, The First Years, and Safety First. But I wanted to let you know that I'm available for advice or venting. I've probably already been there and screwed it up so I can tell you how NOT to do it, Lol

]]> By: NewSingleMama http://newsinglemama.com/221/the-attack-of-momzilla/comment-page-1/#comment-243 NewSingleMama Tue, 24 Mar 2009 03:30:30 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=221#comment-243 Thank you! I'm glad you know what I mean about this stuff. That it's not meant to be ridiculous, only that it's meant for the best quality which ends up being cheaper in the long run because it needs less replacing. They were making me feel like I was insisting on shopping for him at Baby Louis Vuitton or Christian Audigier or something LOL Thank you! I'm glad you know what I mean about this stuff. That it's not meant to be ridiculous, only that it's meant for the best quality which ends up being cheaper in the long run because it needs less replacing.

They were making me feel like I was insisting on shopping for him at Baby Louis Vuitton or Christian Audigier or something LOL

]]> By: NewSingleMama http://newsinglemama.com/221/the-attack-of-momzilla/comment-page-1/#comment-242 NewSingleMama Tue, 24 Mar 2009 03:08:22 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=221#comment-242 What you say is true about the birthdays and all. I have a certain idea in my head of what I would like. I'm not trying to take over completely, but I don't mind helping out. I just hate being told "What you like doesn't matter you're just going to have to deal with it!" Especially since the two planners seem so confused in which route they're going. I feel like I could make things easier on them to be more specific and help them find more options that could fit into their budget so no one goes broke trying to do this. Did you just try to go basic on your registry or did your mom add things she thought you'd need? What you say is true about the birthdays and all. I have a certain idea in my head of what I would like. I'm not trying to take over completely, but I don't mind helping out. I just hate being told "What you like doesn't matter you're just going to have to deal with it!" Especially since the two planners seem so confused in which route they're going. I feel like I could make things easier on them to be more specific and help them find more options that could fit into their budget so no one goes broke trying to do this.

Did you just try to go basic on your registry or did your mom add things she thought you'd need?

]]> By: Asha http://newsinglemama.com/221/the-attack-of-momzilla/comment-page-1/#comment-241 Asha Tue, 24 Mar 2009 02:33:40 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=221#comment-241 Oh I'm so sorry..... This is going to be of no comfort to you - but it wont get better for some time. Monkey is 16 months old and her donors parents still act like I'm not doing everything right - or I'm "snobby" because "Well, I'm sorry but I'd prefer to buy her NEW cloth underwear to potty train in because I'm not comfortable with used ones and I'd also prefer to use a new potty seat" or "All those toys (10yrs or older) were broken so I fixed what I could and donated them to the salvation army" or "No, we don't use white cloud diapers, I'd prefer to use diapers that I know don't leak, they're expensive yes - but no one asked you to buy diapers now either, did they?" Mama - all I can say is let it go in one ear and right out the other. You know what you want for your little man, and he deserves the BEST of everything. You're on the right track. Don't let them get to you, even though they're family. One of these days - it will get better. They'll see how wonderful your little man is doing, and how well he's developing and they'll either leave off - or they wont. Either way, always remember that YOU are his mother and YOU make the rules. If others can't abide by them, then they have no place in you and your son's life. All you need is positive feedback now, the road ahead of you as a single mom is HARD ENOUGH. But I say spoil him - he's yours! Oh I'm so sorry….. This is going to be of no comfort to you – but it wont get better for some time. Monkey is 16 months old and her donors parents still act like I'm not doing everything right – or I'm "snobby" because "Well, I'm sorry but I'd prefer to buy her NEW cloth underwear to potty train in because I'm not comfortable with used ones and I'd also prefer to use a new potty seat" or "All those toys (10yrs or older) were broken so I fixed what I could and donated them to the salvation army" or "No, we don't use white cloud diapers, I'd prefer to use diapers that I know don't leak, they're expensive yes – but no one asked you to buy diapers now either, did they?" Mama – all I can say is let it go in one ear and right out the other. You know what you want for your little man, and he deserves the BEST of everything. You're on the right track. Don't let them get to you, even though they're family.

One of these days – it will get better. They'll see how wonderful your little man is doing, and how well he's developing and they'll either leave off – or they wont. Either way, always remember that YOU are his mother and YOU make the rules. If others can't abide by them, then they have no place in you and your son's life. All you need is positive feedback now, the road ahead of you as a single mom is HARD ENOUGH.

But I say spoil him – he's yours!

]]> By: Heather http://newsinglemama.com/221/the-attack-of-momzilla/comment-page-1/#comment-240 Heather Mon, 23 Mar 2009 22:07:20 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=221#comment-240 I had three baby showers and had absolutely nothing to do with planning any of them. I was cool with it, because I always thought that baby showers were something that other people did FOR you. You'll have many, many, many birthday parties to plan top to bottom in the future. THis is just my opinion, though. If having a say in your baby shower is improtant to you, then go for it!! The registry stuff should definitely be your call, though. I pulled up my registry online once, and my mother started adding ridiculous stuff that I didn't want on there!!! I was peeved, but I just deleted it all later. I understand your frustrations. It gets even worse when people try to interfere with the actual kidlet when they arrive. Grrrr. Good luck with everything and try to find time to de-stress!!!! I had three baby showers and had absolutely nothing to do with planning any of them. I was cool with it, because I always thought that baby showers were something that other people did FOR you. You'll have many, many, many birthday parties to plan top to bottom in the future. THis is just my opinion, though. If having a say in your baby shower is improtant to you, then go for it!!

The registry stuff should definitely be your call, though. I pulled up my registry online once, and my mother started adding ridiculous stuff that I didn't want on there!!! I was peeved, but I just deleted it all later.

I understand your frustrations. It gets even worse when people try to interfere with the actual kidlet when they arrive. Grrrr. Good luck with everything and try to find time to de-stress!!!!

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