My First Week Being a Mother: Things I’ve Learned!
Posted on | July 12, 2009 | 5 Comments
My first week as a mom. This is such a huge change and it’s kinda like a whirlwind that I’ve been blindly tossed into over night. Some things about motherhood have so far been expected, but I kind of have had to realize how severe they are, especially being a single mother. While so far motherhood is something I enjoy it’s also something to get used to because I’ve learned:
- I can no longer go to the rest room in peace and quiet. I better get lucky and coincidentally go when the baby is sleeping. If he isn’t I have to drag him in there and soothe him while he cries also rushing the process of my duties. Taking a shower and brushing my teeth? Forget about it. I have to find the time for these things.
- When I’m hungry the baby comes first. Again I can’t eat until he sleeps or is completely satisfied that he’ll quietly sit in his Boppy while mommy quickly stuffs her face! Enjoying food is kinda out of the question these days.
- As far as sleeping goes I get in where I fit in. If I’m tired with nothing to do at the time I’ll nap while he naps. If I’m sleeping good and my baby wakes up I just can’t tune him out like I would everything else. I must drag my sleepy ass out of bed and tend to his needs no matter how hard it is! Which, for a sleep lover like me who has been deprived the last 5 months or so, is very hard!
- Changing the diapers of a fussy, squirming baby is actually very hard to do! So is bathing and dressing one! My son absolutely hates being naked for any reason.
- Being puked on, peed on, drooled on, sneezed on, farted on and pooped on by another human being no longer disgusts me. In fact I typically smell like a mixture of these things + baby products and it doesn’t even phase me. Although it’s not ideal, I’ve learned to be OK with it lol.
Despite how all of this seems my son is a good baby and only cries when he really needs something like a change or a feeding or if he just wants me. Thank god I don’t have a little nightmare! I just have a little attached boy who seems to love his mommy very much right away. And the feeling I get when I look at his pretty face, witness how much he settles down when I scoop him in my arms or feel him tightly wrap his tiny arms and hands around my neck when I’m putting him to sleep makes all of this “inconvenience” more than OK 
VISITORS:
Family and friends being super excited and adoring the new baby is to be expected and hell it makes me feel special to see all the love he receives. All the same I’ve learned that I’m a selfish mom. Though yeah I do want a break at times, it bothers me to have visitors touching all on my boy and doing their annoying little things with him.
- Don’t touch him with your germy hands without washing first. You do know that after he grabs on to your finger that you didn’t wash he puts his hand in his mouth, right? I’m sorry I don’t know where your finger has been and I don’t wanna find out through some virus my son gets!
- Don’t kiss him all over his face. Again where have your lips been and on who? Are you sick? I don’t wanna find out!
- Don’t offer to change his diapers and rub all over his privates. It bugs the shit out of me. I hate it. I guess I feel like it’s ok for other people to change him, but it’s a violation of his privacy for them to actually touch him down there!
I get annoyed with everyone’s “advice”. Really why don’t people figure that no one loves to be lectured all the time and basically told they’re a shitty parent who doesn’t know what they’re doing? I mean yeah if there’s a toy or something out tht has been proven to kill babies tell me, but don’t walk in the door and criticize me for how I hold him, how I feed him, how I put him to sleep, etc … I’m not being too rough. I’m not going to choke him I swear. And if he gets a little spoiled by falling asleep on my chest it’s Ok, I’ll deal with it. It’s a personal bonding time that both he and I enjoy.
-Also I hate when visitors were doing all of the above and I snatched my son from them, my aunt actually had the nerve to say “Oh you see him all of the time, let someone else hold him” while trying to pry him out of my arms. HEY! He’s my baby, not a toy. I will hold him if I want no matter if I do it a lot or not, I’m entitled to continue it!
Gosh, I sound like a bitter bitch, but really I’m not. People bug! I guess it’s all instinct of being a mother. Protective, a germaphobe, wanting the best for my tiny little person …
Lastly, a because in just a week I’m already SUCH a freakin mom .. pics of my baby 
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July 13th, 2009 @ 9:27 am
I got annoyed by a lot of things too in the beginning. Eventually it’ll get easier to shrug off and probably won’t bother you as much but then again when he gets older you won’t need to worry as much to begin with. Try not to get too annoyed with your aunt over her comment. It was wrong but newborn babies do weird things to people. I think it’s just something every mom hears at some point. Just wait to see the reactions of strangers at the store.
July 13th, 2009 @ 8:25 pm
I absolutely love to sleep too. This entry brought back memories of when my son was first born! I remeber middle of the night feedings and dozing off and waking up to him crying because the bottle was no longer in his mouth it was in his cheek! LOL I got annoyed with people too! Its like back off hes MY baby!! My advice to new moms is ALWAYS–Dont listen to anyones advice. Do whatever feels right to you!– I hated everyones advice. My boyfriends moms answer to every time my son cried was that he was hungry. I wanted to say “Oh that must be it, I mean there is no other possible reason for a baby to cry unless theyre hungry! I mean I do only feed him on Tuedays and Thursdays! ” But my actual response was a smile and a nod!! God I hate people!! LOL
July 14th, 2009 @ 8:17 pm
Girl- many, many (most?) new mommas are RIGHT THERE with you.
July 14th, 2009 @ 11:43 pm
Girl, it took me until Monkey was 9 months or so to let go of all that. It’s a scary world all of a sudden, realizing that this little person is depending on you to protect them from EVERYTHING. So, don’t worry. You’re doing fine.
And I agree with a PP newborns do STRANGE things to people.
July 20th, 2009 @ 3:55 pm
Thanks everyone. I’m wondering when it’s going to get easier to constantly get bitched at. I guess its weird going from being pregnant and coddled to kinda thrown under the bus once the baby is born. He gets all the oos and aaahhs and I get the “You’re a crap mom!” lol.
Stephanie – LOL hahah can’t say I’m not guilty of the same. Falling asleep with the nipple hitting my baby’s cheek. So funny.