And Now He’s Gone ..
Posted on | August 19, 2009 | 5 Comments
When I made THIS POST I thought more than anything in the world that’s what I wanted. For my son to know who his father was.
But why when I got him and his cooperation I didn’t have not one good feeling about it and instead was terribly apprehensive and constantly on the verge of tears?
I remained firm with what I wanted out of this meeting and he was cooperative and nice about it. One stipulation that I had was that me and my son would go visit him under the condition that NO ONE would be there but us. Me, him and our baby. He agreed. That was until this morning when I was asking him for directions he said “Hey my girlfriend might be here she wants to see the baby”
I flipped and told him absolutely not that’s not what we agreed to. So again he said OK, he understood, no one but us. I still didn’t trust him so my rules changed to:
1) We come there but no one will be involved but me, him, the baby and the guy I’m currently seeing for our safety.
2) If he has a problem with that he comes here to see his son.
3) If he doesn’t want to do that we forget about the whole thing and let Child Support handle everything in between us from now on.
He didn’t too much like those options and told me the next time I contact him I better have a DNA test ready. Hmph. So I gave him the number to Child Support and told him our case is on file so he can set it up, then I sent him on his merry way.
Can’t say I wasn’t expecting this. I knew it was only a matter of time. He knows it’s his son deep down, so I think he wanted to see him just to see him and not too much more would’ve come from it.
Also I re-publicized THIS POST which touches only a LITTLE on what was said this morning. Girlfriend or no girlfriend he obviously wanted sex with me again and I believe our son was the perfect opportunity in his mind to get it from me.
Ugh I’m so over this piece of shit and since he’s decided to back out AGAIN I feel as though a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. Still I don’t too much trust him or his family so I regret telling him my son’s name and showing him a picture. I don’t know what will come from that.
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August 19th, 2009 @ 9:37 pm
Hang in there! It’s a long process to getting to a place where you’re comfortable with this whole situation, trust. Some days are better than others, but from what I can see, you and your son will be more than okay.
August 19th, 2009 @ 10:12 pm
omg! what’s gonna happen after the dna test proves its his son? he will become a LEGAL parent! he will be granted visitation and custody rights. Is that something you want and can handle?
August 19th, 2009 @ 11:37 pm
SMNYC – Thank you! I’m OK but I’m more worried about my son than anything. All I want is for him to be OK and happy.
CMC – I don’t know. He’s threatened before that he will take my son away. Although I’m cautious of it I believe that to do a useless threat because the last thing he would want to be right now is a single father. He doesn’t even want to be a coparent, but I do fear them trying to hurt my son.
I expect to go to court and have everything worked out. His rap sheet is long, he has an on and off again drug problem as well as anger issues, he doesn’t keep jobs because he’d rather his dad take care of him, so there’s no way they’d reward him with anything more than visitation. He’s just not fit.
August 20th, 2009 @ 6:30 pm
Wow, still be careful. He sounds like someone who will be nasty just to get revenge. A man like that can pull some stunts. I will so be praying for you and your little one.
August 25th, 2009 @ 11:32 pm
MeMandB – thank you for keeping us in our prayers. I will definitely try to keep me and my baby safe!