Comments on: I Hate This Part http://newsinglemama.com/374/i-hate-this-part/ I am a single mother of a biracial baby boy just trying to make it on my own. This journey is hard, yet rewarding. Blogging is my therapy, these words are my heart, and people doing better and being inspired by what I have written is my passion and hope. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 17:17:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: stop a divorce http://newsinglemama.com/374/i-hate-this-part/comment-page-1/#comment-901 stop a divorce Mon, 23 May 2011 12:51:42 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=374#comment-901 Nice Posts. I have bookmarked your site. Nice Posts. I have bookmarked your site.

]]> By: Putting My Truth and Honesty Out There | Raw and Honest Blog of a New Single Mom http://newsinglemama.com/374/i-hate-this-part/comment-page-1/#comment-563 Putting My Truth and Honesty Out There | Raw and Honest Blog of a New Single Mom Sat, 19 Sep 2009 21:19:38 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=374#comment-563 [...] sexual relationships and getting what I wanted out of them, that after everything that has happened I miss my child’s father, that I now have a weight problem, that money is hard yet I still spend foolishly, that I’ve [...] [...] sexual relationships and getting what I wanted out of them, that after everything that has happened I miss my child’s father, that I now have a weight problem, that money is hard yet I still spend foolishly, that I’ve [...]

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/374/i-hate-this-part/comment-page-1/#comment-527 Bridgette Wed, 26 Aug 2009 05:36:46 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=374#comment-527 SMNYC - That was such an inspiring post. I really hope that there comes a day when all of this will no longer matter. When he will be a non-issue. When I can be where you are mentally. When you were going through a similar experience and hurt by your ex how did you manage to cope and heal to get to where you are now? SMNYC – That was such an inspiring post. I really hope that there comes a day when all of this will no longer matter. When he will be a non-issue. When I can be where you are mentally.

When you were going through a similar experience and hurt by your ex how did you manage to cope and heal to get to where you are now?

]]> By: The Escape | Raw and Honest Blog of a New Single Mom http://newsinglemama.com/374/i-hate-this-part/comment-page-1/#comment-520 The Escape | Raw and Honest Blog of a New Single Mom Tue, 25 Aug 2009 17:24:46 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=374#comment-520 [...] like I’m cooped in with no where to go. I feel like I just can’t escape my thoughts of him. I feel like he is haunting me every where I turn! [...] [...] like I’m cooped in with no where to go. I feel like I just can’t escape my thoughts of him. I feel like he is haunting me every where I turn! [...]

]]> By: Single Mama NYC http://newsinglemama.com/374/i-hate-this-part/comment-page-1/#comment-519 Single Mama NYC Tue, 25 Aug 2009 17:16:45 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=374#comment-519 One day you are going to be so surprised at how much you DON'T care about him. One day you are going to be so emotionally divorced from him as a man - AND as a father - that whether he contributes to Jack's life or not will be irrelevant to you. All you will focus on is your life as Bridgette, and who you are as Jack's mommy. Everything else will fall away. I tell you this from almost 3 years of experience. It used to hurt so bad I thought I'd go crazy, now I'm so free that my life is utterly my own again on every level. You'll get there too! One day you are going to be so surprised at how much you DON’T care about him. One day you are going to be so emotionally divorced from him as a man – AND as a father – that whether he contributes to Jack’s life or not will be irrelevant to you. All you will focus on is your life as Bridgette, and who you are as Jack’s mommy. Everything else will fall away. I tell you this from almost 3 years of experience. It used to hurt so bad I thought I’d go crazy, now I’m so free that my life is utterly my own again on every level. You’ll get there too!

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/374/i-hate-this-part/comment-page-1/#comment-511 Bridgette Sat, 22 Aug 2009 16:16:30 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=374#comment-511 CMC - Thank you. You're right about all of that and I know it. :) CMC – Thank you. You’re right about all of that and I know it. :)

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/374/i-hate-this-part/comment-page-1/#comment-510 Bridgette Sat, 22 Aug 2009 16:14:32 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=374#comment-510 tam - you're pretty much right. Except I don't focus on his good qualities thinking that someday we could work on. I focus on things they way they are and I get stuck in an emotional rut of why. Why he has to be the way he is when things could be so much better, when he could be so happy .. when we all could be a family. It's dumb and it's a waste of my time, but my mind always drifts there. I hate it! You're right. I can't change him .. I don't think anyone ever could. He was way much more growing up to do than most men his age. And you're right that he shouldn't even be in my sons' life because I NEVER want my son to grow up being like his father. These are just things I know but REALLY need to accept and I'm working on it. tam – you’re pretty much right. Except I don’t focus on his good qualities thinking that someday we could work on. I focus on things they way they are and I get stuck in an emotional rut of why. Why he has to be the way he is when things could be so much better, when he could be so happy .. when we all could be a family.

It’s dumb and it’s a waste of my time, but my mind always drifts there. I hate it!

You’re right. I can’t change him .. I don’t think anyone ever could. He was way much more growing up to do than most men his age. And you’re right that he shouldn’t even be in my sons’ life because I NEVER want my son to grow up being like his father.

These are just things I know but REALLY need to accept and I’m working on it.

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/374/i-hate-this-part/comment-page-1/#comment-509 Bridgette Sat, 22 Aug 2009 16:08:52 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=374#comment-509 Lauren - I went back to your blog and read from the beginning and you're so right! We were in very similar situations. I know he's trash. I know he's not worth my time .. I barely even wanted anything to do with him before our child. I know that he'll never be a good influence for my son. But for some reason I continue to dream he will .. but not the reality that he will cause I doubt it but I continue to fantasize. I try so dang hard to stop cause I know it's a waste of time but for some reason I just can't. And it makes it even harder when he shows up. I'm hoping that with time the fantasies will go away. Lauren – I went back to your blog and read from the beginning and you’re so right! We were in very similar situations.

I know he’s trash. I know he’s not worth my time .. I barely even wanted anything to do with him before our child. I know that he’ll never be a good influence for my son. But for some reason I continue to dream he will .. but not the reality that he will cause I doubt it but I continue to fantasize. I try so dang hard to stop cause I know it’s a waste of time but for some reason I just can’t. And it makes it even harder when he shows up.

I’m hoping that with time the fantasies will go away.

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