Comments on: Having Second Thoughts Today http://newsinglemama.com/4/having-second-thoughts-today/ I am a single mother of a biracial baby boy just trying to make it on my own. This journey is hard, yet rewarding. Blogging is my therapy, these words are my heart, and people doing better and being inspired by what I have written is my passion and hope. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 17:17:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: NewSingleMama http://newsinglemama.com/4/having-second-thoughts-today/comment-page-1/#comment-477 NewSingleMama Thu, 06 Aug 2009 19:52:25 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=4#comment-477 Keep your heads up ladies. If only these men knew how much they hurt us by what they're doing. If only they cared, if only they could experience what it's like. I used to not believe in karma but I hope it exists in these cases! Keep your heads up ladies. If only these men knew how much they hurt us by what they’re doing. If only they cared, if only they could experience what it’s like.

I used to not believe in karma but I hope it exists in these cases!

]]> By: Isra http://newsinglemama.com/4/having-second-thoughts-today/comment-page-1/#comment-475 Isra Wed, 05 Aug 2009 20:26:48 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=4#comment-475 Hi, ladies. readina ll of your comments I can't believe men like that exist. I am 5 months pregnant today, and I've already mentioned this to Bridgette (don't know if you remember me) but I have the most insensitive spermdonor. He's genuinly the devil, and my situation is very similar to your josiserain, it was casual and brief. I am over him now, to the extent where I dont pine after him. But I still think about him at all, but never in the context of him seeing my child or me spending time with him. But I do hate myself for bringing up a child without a father, cause I love mine very much and have always been surrounded by great fathers, like my brother is to his children, or my uncle is to his cousins. And how can i look at my child knowing that he wasn't made out of love. I come from a different culture and I am not telling my dad, my mom has already disowned me, and I wish that my child would at least have one grandmother, but since the BD is denying its even his, im not sure what I am gonna do... Hi, ladies. readina ll of your comments I can’t believe men like that exist. I am 5 months pregnant today, and I’ve already mentioned this to Bridgette (don’t know if you remember me) but I have the most insensitive spermdonor. He’s genuinly the devil, and my situation is very similar to your josiserain, it was casual and brief. I am over him now, to the extent where I dont pine after him. But I still think about him at all, but never in the context of him seeing my child or me spending time with him. But I do hate myself for bringing up a child without a father, cause I love mine very much and have always been surrounded by great fathers, like my brother is to his children, or my uncle is to his cousins. And how can i look at my child knowing that he wasn’t made out of love. I come from a different culture and I am not telling my dad, my mom has already disowned me, and I wish that my child would at least have one grandmother, but since the BD is denying its even his, im not sure what I am gonna do…

]]> By: Lisa http://newsinglemama.com/4/having-second-thoughts-today/comment-page-1/#comment-457 Lisa Mon, 27 Jul 2009 04:50:04 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=4#comment-457 I know exactly what you went through i going the same thing right now. I'm 6 months pregnant with our 1st child and my bf told me its over 2 months ago. Everytime i try to call him he wouldn't answer but when he does he just tells me hurtful things. I feel like this will never end i cry everyday. Sleep is tormented and i lucky if i get 4 hrs of it. He never calls or come by and i don't have any close family living in this state. I love him with all my heart y would he leave me like this. Btw he has a new girlfriend and he spends all his time with her. I would never wish this what im going through in anyone I know exactly what you went through i going the same thing right now. I’m 6 months pregnant with our 1st child and my bf told me its over 2 months ago. Everytime i try to call him he wouldn’t answer but when he does he just tells me hurtful things. I feel like this will never end i cry everyday. Sleep is tormented and i lucky if i get 4 hrs of it. He never calls or come by and i don’t have any close family living in this state. I love him with all my heart y would he leave me like this. Btw he has a new girlfriend and he spends all his time with her. I would never wish this what im going through in anyone

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/4/having-second-thoughts-today/comment-page-1/#comment-415 Bridgette Wed, 24 Jun 2009 23:41:36 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=4#comment-415 I remember all of those feelings and I remember all of that drama with the BD. I don't know what the future has in store or how he he will be, what will happen when little man is born in a couple of weeks but for now I don't care too much. I just plan to do what I need to do as a mom and hope the rest falls into place! I remember all of those feelings and I remember all of that drama with the BD. I don’t know what the future has in store or how he he will be, what will happen when little man is born in a couple of weeks but for now I don’t care too much. I just plan to do what I need to do as a mom and hope the rest falls into place!

]]> By: Josierain http://newsinglemama.com/4/having-second-thoughts-today/comment-page-1/#comment-413 Josierain Thu, 18 Jun 2009 13:22:18 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=4#comment-413 Hi, I have to say I feel really comforted by your post because its exactly how I feel and you put it all down so well. I feel really sorry for you but know you are doing the right thing. I am 7 months pregnant and the father of my baby is a total arsehole. He spent months emailing me trying to bully me into having an abortion. We were only together on and off last year for about 6 months and it was mostly just a physical thing. We did get on well sometimes (incredibly well sometimes) but he is sexist and racist and from a very different culture to me. Even now when I should be relaxing he is causing me all sorts of worries (long story and I shouldn't go into it) but throughout it all I'm scared of the birth, scared anything will happen to her and scared I will be alone forever. I'm also scared he will never pay a penny in maintenance (he was made redundant earlier this year) and now lives abroad. I'm scared I'll never see him again (only seen him 3 times since I told him I'm pregnant) but then scared I will never be rid of him and be able to get over him. Anyway - its a horrible time. I hope you have good friends and family around you. That is one thing that has kept me strong because really he has made this much harder than it has to be. He says he wants 0% commitment to the child. I don't even know if I hate him anymore I'm just resigned and tired of him. We are poles apart as people. Your baby will love you by the way - don't worry. Hi,

I have to say I feel really comforted by your post because its exactly how I feel and you put it all down so well. I feel really sorry for you but know you are doing the right thing. I am 7 months pregnant and the father of my baby is a total arsehole. He spent months emailing me trying to bully me into having an abortion. We were only together on and off last year for about 6 months and it was mostly just a physical thing. We did get on well sometimes (incredibly well sometimes) but he is sexist and racist and from a very different culture to me.

Even now when I should be relaxing he is causing me all sorts of worries (long story and I shouldn’t go into it) but throughout it all I’m scared of the birth, scared anything will happen to her and scared I will be alone forever. I’m also scared he will never pay a penny in maintenance (he was made redundant earlier this year) and now lives abroad. I’m scared I’ll never see him again (only seen him 3 times since I told him I’m pregnant) but then scared I will never be rid of him and be able to get over him.

Anyway – its a horrible time. I hope you have good friends and family around you. That is one thing that has kept me strong because really he has made this much harder than it has to be. He says he wants 0% commitment to the child. I don’t even know if I hate him anymore I’m just resigned and tired of him. We are poles apart as people.

Your baby will love you by the way – don’t worry.

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