Comments on: So Far So Fail

By: hef

hef — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 19:35:21 +0000

You’re fucking with your sanity by expecting all of those things from yourself. Most new mothers WITH another adult in the home to help have a hard time showering and primping every day. It’s motherhood- especially new motherhood. Add to that the whole single thing, and you don’t stand a chance, dear. LOL.

It does get easier, and you will (or, at least, I did) learn to be easier on yourself. You do the best you can and you should be satisfied by it.
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By: Bridgette

Bridgette — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 16:16:02 +0000

Satsuki – You’re right. I think not having a child there I kinda expected much more from myself because I wasn’t exactly sure how much I’d have to face, how tired I would be, how stressed.

Like you I saw the celebrity moms in candids looking so fierce .. body snapped back into shape within months, hair looking great, skin and make up flawless, dressed to the T all while carrying their baby and doing errands so I was like “Oh hell yeah! That’s going to be me! KUDOS!”

Except .. uh. No. It’s much harder with no assistants, no millions and also being a single mom!

Thanks

By: Bridgette

Bridgette — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 16:11:43 +0000

Lauren – LOL Oh man I forgot about some of those things too. Yup I said I was going to have a birth with no one in the room but a doc, a nurse and my mom. There ended up being a doc, a nurse, two assistants, my mom and my aunt. I was so drugged up and ready to see my boy that I didnt even care. Oh yeah and the drugs! I said I wasn’t going to have any from an IV.. don’t know what I would’ve done without them!

I wanted to breastfeed too. It was too much hassle trying to get him onto my breast and then much more hassle to pump. So that did not last either!

By: Satsuki

Satsuki — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 15:41:12 +0000

I think every woman goes through this. It isn’t so much that we fail as it is us just having unrealistic expectations of ourselves. Without having a baby it’s impossible to know how one will change our way of living.

Before I had my daughter I had images of me running around complete with the baby sling, looking just like Angelina Jolie. Well, I did buy myself that sling. I used that sling. I’m just sure I never looked too amazing doing it. Showers were a luxury back then. SLEEP was a luxury.

So yeah, try not to be too hard on yourself.
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By: Lauren

Lauren — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 23:56:24 +0000

I ate like a pig, I rarely put any lotion on my belly (my stretch marks have actually faded quite a bit compared to how they were after birth, but there are still plenty of them there!), I STILL don’t do a great job of keeping myself looking nice a whole 18 months later.

I also told myself I was going to have an all-natural birth, but I ended up with a little bit of pain medication.

I told myself I was going to breastfeed for the first year, and I lasted 2 days.

You’ll eventually find yourself more on top of your life as time goes on, but it can definitely be a very slow process!
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