Comments on: Evil. http://newsinglemama.com/556/evil/ I am a single mother of a biracial baby boy just trying to make it on my own. This journey is hard, yet rewarding. Blogging is my therapy, these words are my heart, and people doing better and being inspired by what I have written is my passion and hope. Fri, 18 May 2012 14:00:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Nadja http://newsinglemama.com/556/evil/comment-page-1/#comment-654 Nadja Sun, 15 Nov 2009 02:12:11 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=556#comment-654 I am currently 25 1/2 weeks along my childs father is an asshole. We haven't spoken in months. I tested positive for the hemoglobin C trait and the genetic counselors tried to pressure me to contact the father and get him tested. They were very insensitive when I mentioned that the father would not be involved...so I blatantly told one nurse that if he curses her the F***k out then it woiuld be on her. Bottom the test would be inconclusive and nothing would make me terminate the pregnancy. I felt so upset ..but I knew that I would feel worse if I reached out to him and felt the rejection ...therefore I chose not to do anything. Can't they just prick the baby's heel to test whether or not he has the trait or disease? All in all..... i feel really bad that you are having a difficult time right now...but take it all in stride and lean on your supportive family and friends as well get on some medication and therapy.....it will work wonders BELIEVE ME. You don't have to suffer with the depression...and stop calling yourself a failure...you are strong and doing the best you can. I would also turn to God for guidance....it has really helped me. You will find someone else that will love and cherish you and your bundle of joy.....Keep your head up!! I am currently 25 1/2 weeks along my childs father is an asshole. We haven’t spoken in months. I tested positive for the hemoglobin C trait and the genetic counselors tried to pressure me to contact the father and get him tested. They were very insensitive when I mentioned that the father would not be involved…so I blatantly told one nurse that if he curses her the F***k out then it woiuld be on her. Bottom the test would be inconclusive and nothing would make me terminate the pregnancy. I felt so upset ..but I knew that I would feel worse if I reached out to him and felt the rejection …therefore I chose not to do anything. Can’t they just prick the baby’s heel to test whether or not he has the trait or disease? All in all….. i feel really bad that you are having a difficult time right now…but take it all in stride and lean on your supportive family and friends as well get on some medication and therapy…..it will work wonders BELIEVE ME. You don’t have to suffer with the depression…and stop calling yourself a failure…you are strong and doing the best you can. I would also turn to God for guidance….it has really helped me. You will find someone else that will love and cherish you and your bundle of joy…..Keep your head up!!

]]> By: Tam http://newsinglemama.com/556/evil/comment-page-1/#comment-605 Tam Wed, 14 Oct 2009 21:48:46 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=556#comment-605 In answer to Caroline - Absolutley Yes you are to tough on yourselves! Relax, enjoy your children and do the best you can for them. It would be nice if every child had a model father, but the reality is, so many children are better of without them. Your both great mums, try not to feel guilty, your sons would want you to be happy. .-= Check Out Tam's Blog! blog "<a href="http://alifetimeofstories.blogspot.com/2009/10/i-even-shocked-my-husband.html" rel="nofollow">I even shocked my husband</a>" =-. In answer to Caroline – Absolutley Yes you are to tough on yourselves! Relax, enjoy your children and do the best you can for them. It would be nice if every child had a model father, but the reality is, so many children are better of without them. Your both great mums, try not to feel guilty, your sons would want you to be happy.
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]]> By: Caroline http://newsinglemama.com/556/evil/comment-page-1/#comment-604 Caroline Wed, 14 Oct 2009 19:55:32 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=556#comment-604 I understand those "guilt" feelings - I feel that I didn't provide my son with a good father either. But without their father's genes, they wouldn't be who they are. It's a tricky one. I'd love to have a new relationship but I'm scared of choosing another "loser" and it impacting badly on my son. Are we too tough on ourselves...? Love your blog - Caroline I understand those “guilt” feelings – I feel that I didn’t provide my son with a good father either. But without their father’s genes, they wouldn’t be who they are. It’s a tricky one.
I’d love to have a new relationship but I’m scared of choosing another “loser” and it impacting badly on my son.
Are we too tough on ourselves…?
Love your blog – Caroline

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/556/evil/comment-page-1/#comment-603 Bridgette Wed, 14 Oct 2009 07:14:08 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=556#comment-603 I don't think it will develop into a disease, but if my son were to reproduce with someone with the trait it's a great chance their baby would have the disease. I don’t think it will develop into a disease, but if my son were to reproduce with someone with the trait it’s a great chance their baby would have the disease.

]]> By: Tam http://newsinglemama.com/556/evil/comment-page-1/#comment-601 Tam Sat, 10 Oct 2009 01:12:37 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=556#comment-601 I agree with Satsuki! Look at him as a sperm donor - and so you got a bit of fun out of the donation! What does the sickle cell trait mean for your son? Does that mean he will develop the disease? .-= Check Out Tam's Blog! blog "<a href="http://alifetimeofstories.blogspot.com/2009/10/complete-360s.html" rel="nofollow">Complete 360's</a>" =-. I agree with Satsuki! Look at him as a sperm donor – and so you got a bit of fun out of the donation!

What does the sickle cell trait mean for your son? Does that mean he will develop the disease?
.-= Check Out Tam’s Blog! blog "Complete 360′s" =-.

]]> By: Satsuki http://newsinglemama.com/556/evil/comment-page-1/#comment-599 Satsuki Thu, 08 Oct 2009 15:41:52 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=556#comment-599 My grandmother was a single parent. My mother was a single parent. I'm a single parent. I don't think you need to feel guilty that HE is a jackass. The only person you can control is yourself and you certainly can't change the past. There's no point in even focusing on it when there's nothing we can do. We can just do our best to learn from our experiences and stay in the present. You have a great son. In my case I have a great daughter. Her father may not be in her life but I have NO regrets when it comes to the decisions that created her life. (Personally I like to think of her biological father as a sperm donor because in the end she is MY baby. ^_^) My grandmother was a single parent. My mother was a single parent. I’m a single parent.

I don’t think you need to feel guilty that HE is a jackass. The only person you can control is yourself and you certainly can’t change the past. There’s no point in even focusing on it when there’s nothing we can do. We can just do our best to learn from our experiences and stay in the present. You have a great son. In my case I have a great daughter. Her father may not be in her life but I have NO regrets when it comes to the decisions that created her life.

(Personally I like to think of her biological father as a sperm donor because in the end she is MY baby. ^_^)

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