Comments on: Tough http://newsinglemama.com/573/tough/ I am a single mother of a biracial baby boy just trying to make it on my own. This journey is hard, yet rewarding. Blogging is my therapy, these words are my heart, and people doing better and being inspired by what I have written is my passion and hope. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 17:17:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: LaKrisha http://newsinglemama.com/573/tough/comment-page-1/#comment-811 LaKrisha Tue, 09 Mar 2010 05:04:43 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=573#comment-811 I totaly understand the bitternes toward your childs father. I truly hate my ex-husband we have three kids together. Durning I our eight year marriage i went through pure hell. Now that we are divorce my kids go to his house on the weekends but as for as financal help I get none and my kids think that they dad is the best dad ever, They don't know the truth that he really ain't shit. I'm struggle really hard right now financialy just lost my job and umemployment just aint enough. He feels that because he give them time and when he have them he do things with them on the weekend that I should give him credit. My kids don't understand that all my money goes on bills, food and clothes for them so I don't have the extra money to do fun things right now. You see he has a new girlfriend who supports him and my kids thinks she is so great. I filed child support but he not working just living off of a woman, i hate to say but he is better off dead because my kids the will get social security from his trifling ass. Trifling he is. I totaly understand the bitternes toward your childs father. I truly hate my ex-husband we have three kids together. Durning I our eight year marriage i went through pure hell. Now that we are divorce my kids go to his house on the weekends but as for as financal help I get none and my kids think that they dad is the best dad ever, They don’t know the truth that he really ain’t shit. I’m struggle really hard right now financialy just lost my job and umemployment just aint enough. He feels that because he give them time and when he have them he do things with them on the weekend that I should give him credit. My kids don’t understand that all my money goes on bills, food and clothes for them so I don’t have the extra money to do fun things right now. You see he has a new girlfriend who supports him and my kids thinks she is so great. I filed child support but he not working just living off of a woman, i hate to say but he is better off dead because my kids the will get social security from his trifling ass. Trifling he is.

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/573/tough/comment-page-1/#comment-644 Bridgette Mon, 09 Nov 2009 08:07:30 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=573#comment-644 Hello everyone. It's nice to see so many newcomers commenting on my blog :D I get bitter at times because I wish I had help. I'm doing the best I can and I'm wearing myself out. My mom helps me but she's old and wears out easily. It would only be fair if his dad did his share, but he's not. Sometimes I wanna shake him because he isn't! But, that's not going to happen so I just keep going the best I can :) Hello everyone. It’s nice to see so many newcomers commenting on my blog :D

I get bitter at times because I wish I had help. I’m doing the best I can and I’m wearing myself out. My mom helps me but she’s old and wears out easily. It would only be fair if his dad did his share, but he’s not. Sometimes I wanna shake him because he isn’t!

But, that’s not going to happen so I just keep going the best I can :)

]]> By: Br. Vito http://newsinglemama.com/573/tough/comment-page-1/#comment-642 Br. Vito Mon, 09 Nov 2009 02:48:07 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=573#comment-642 I just came across your blog. I appreciate the raw and transparent way you write. Some of the things you write remind me of the things my mother went through as a single mom. As someone who works with the poor and marginalized, I'd be interested to hear about the role (if any) God plays in your life. I don't want come off as "preachy," however I've found many single mothers (including my own mom) who find strength from their faith and their Church community. I will keep you in my prayers. Peace. .-= Check Out Br. Vito 's Blog! blog "<a href="http://vocationstory.blogspot.com/2009/11/choosing-poverty-poor-boy-living-poor.html" rel="nofollow">Choosing Poverty: Poor Boy Living Poor</a>" =-. I just came across your blog. I appreciate the raw and transparent way you write. Some of the things you write remind me of the things my mother went through as a single mom.

As someone who works with the poor and marginalized, I’d be interested to hear about the role (if any) God plays in your life. I don’t want come off as “preachy,” however I’ve found many single mothers (including my own mom) who find strength from their faith and their Church community.

I will keep you in my prayers.

Peace.
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]]> By: Gemini Mommy http://newsinglemama.com/573/tough/comment-page-1/#comment-641 Gemini Mommy Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:48:05 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=573#comment-641 Regarding the bittnerness, you are sooo not alone in feeling that way. I feel so bitter towards my child's father that its a shame. I mean, every time I think of him my whole body clinches up and I want to throw something. For real, lol. And when I see him - I truly would love to spit on him or punch him in the face with a brick ( I won't do it of course). My bitterness towards him mainly comes from the way he treated me while I was preg. I have such a dislike for him because of it. I really need to get over it soon because it truly is hindering me from being happy. I know he could care less how I feel about him as he is all wrapped up in his new gf. I am working on getting past it because he doesn't deserve any of my energy!! Regarding the bittnerness, you are sooo not alone in feeling that way. I feel so bitter towards my child’s father that its a shame. I mean, every time I think of him my whole body clinches up and I want to throw something. For real, lol. And when I see him – I truly would love to spit on him or punch him in the face with a brick ( I won’t do it of course). My bitterness towards him mainly comes from the way he treated me while I was preg. I have such a dislike for him because of it. I really need to get over it soon because it truly is hindering me from being happy. I know he could care less how I feel about him as he is all wrapped up in his new gf. I am working on getting past it because he doesn’t deserve any of my energy!!

]]> By: Samantha http://newsinglemama.com/573/tough/comment-page-1/#comment-639 Samantha Tue, 03 Nov 2009 21:06:37 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=573#comment-639 Hi. I just came across your blog. You are very honest and raw about how you are feeling and that's good. I hope you are able to get the rest and help you need. Focus on taking care of yourself and your baby. He wil need every ounce of love you can give him. As for your ex, I hope you can make the decision someday to forgive him and let him go. Seems like that's letting him off the hook, but it's not. It's letting yourself off the hook and giving you permission to be happy and healthy. The bitterness you are feeling means that you are not in control of your life. He is and you are giving him that control. It takes time to process it all, but once you make the decision to be happy and at peace it will be easier to let the past go. All the best to you and your sweet baby! .-= Check Out Samantha's Blog! blog "<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/richsinglemommafeed/~3/u1asey6UmiI/how-rich-single-momma-makes-money-online" rel="nofollow">How Rich Single Momma Makes Money Online</a>" =-. Hi. I just came across your blog. You are very honest and raw about how you are feeling and that’s good. I hope you are able to get the rest and help you need. Focus on taking care of yourself and your baby. He wil need every ounce of love you can give him.

As for your ex, I hope you can make the decision someday to forgive him and let him go. Seems like that’s letting him off the hook, but it’s not. It’s letting yourself off the hook and giving you permission to be happy and healthy.

The bitterness you are feeling means that you are not in control of your life. He is and you are giving him that control. It takes time to process it all, but once you make the decision to be happy and at peace it will be easier to let the past go.

All the best to you and your sweet baby!
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]]> By: carols http://newsinglemama.com/573/tough/comment-page-1/#comment-637 carols Mon, 02 Nov 2009 05:46:29 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=573#comment-637 I so feel for you. I think it's quite understandable that you're feeling bitter. I've been struggling with those feelings for over six years. It's very hard not to feel bitter when you are unsupported and doing the job of two people. Two parents struggle with caring for a baby - we single parents are often attempting the impossible. Try try try to do nice things for yourself whenever you can. I really think that helps with those negative feelings. A small treat or excursion to a place you love can make a lot of difference. And pimp that gorgeous baby out!! Why not? I did it with my son and he made a mag cover and went on a tv show!! It was fun for me and got me out of the house - the money barely covered the travel to get to the job though!! I often visit your blog to see how you're doing. Good luck girl and remember you've got a supporter here in Australia!! I so feel for you. I think it’s quite understandable that you’re feeling bitter. I’ve been struggling with those feelings for over six years. It’s very hard not to feel bitter when you are unsupported and doing the job of two people. Two parents struggle with caring for a baby – we single parents are often attempting the impossible.
Try try try to do nice things for yourself whenever you can. I really think that helps with those negative feelings. A small treat or excursion to a place you love can make a lot of difference.

And pimp that gorgeous baby out!! Why not? I did it with my son and he made a mag cover and went on a tv show!! It was fun for me and got me out of the house – the money barely covered the travel to get to the job though!!
I often visit your blog to see how you’re doing. Good luck girl and remember you’ve got a supporter here in Australia!!

]]> By: isra http://newsinglemama.com/573/tough/comment-page-1/#comment-636 isra Fri, 30 Oct 2009 21:02:00 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=573#comment-636 thanks for the update!! i come here everyday to see if you're ok! don't know if you remember me...but written before. i managed to contact my childs other nan...from his so called daddy's side. she was 100% suportive. wanted to get involved and meet up and stuff until daddy got involved and ruined it all.. so once again me and my baby are alone. good thing is im pretty over the daddy although i can sense the bitterness taking over, which i sont necessarily prefer. shame about the financial situation. i live in the uk...and as far as i know the financial support for single parents is amasing hope to hear more from you soon!! rake care thanks for the update!! i come here everyday to see if you’re ok! don’t know if you remember me…but written before. i managed to contact my childs other nan…from his so called daddy’s side. she was 100% suportive. wanted to get involved and meet up and stuff until daddy got involved and ruined it all.. so once again me and my baby are alone. good thing is im pretty over the daddy although i can sense the bitterness taking over, which i sont necessarily prefer. shame about the financial situation. i live in the uk…and as far as i know the financial support for single parents is amasing hope to hear more from you soon!! rake care

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