Sitter Abuse
Posted on | November 17, 2009 | 9 Comments
My mom kept my son last night and since I was tired she asked me if I would be OK with her taking my son over to my aunt’s house before she went to work so I could rest and because my aunt has been dying to watch my boy. I told her I suppose that would be OK and my son stayed with them (her and her husband) for about 8 hours until I came and picked him up.
My aunt always weirds me out kinda with my son. She’s always obsessed with changing his diaper and wanting to give him baths. This has never sat well with me because I always thought it was stange she wanted to do that so often, but I never really said anything cause I thought maybe she just wanted to help out.
Anyway, what that has to do with anything is my mom just called me and told me my other aunt went over there to visit and my aunts husband told her that while my son was asleep he was messing with him and did things to wake him up. Either he didn’t say what or my aunt didn’t tell my mom what, but now I have a very bad feeling. When I went to go get him I already had a bad feeling because I’ve never been sure if I trust them a lot or not. Now I’m wondering what the hell were they doing to my baby?
Thinking back when I was a little kid .. up until I was about 7 this same aunt used to always try to stick her boobs in my mouth and tell me to suck her milk out even though she’s never had kids before. Like seriously whip her boobs out and rub them on my face and try to get them in my mouth. Sometimes she’d bite and suck on me in a sexualish manner on my neck. It weirded me out as a kid but my mom told me not to worry about it because it’s just my aunt being silly and since it’s been stopped for so many years I’ve kinda forgotten about it, but hell no is that going to go on with my son.
I’m pissed now and feel so bad that I didn’t think of this and let him over there. I don’t know what else to do except not let them see him anymore.
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November 17th, 2009 @ 1:27 pm
Why in the world would you let your son go ANYWHERE where you don’t feel comfortable. You need to feel 100 PERCENT comfortable of anyone that cares for your child. 100 PERCENT!
Do you not watch the news?
Please do better. Children are helpless.
November 17th, 2009 @ 6:15 pm
These are people I have grown up with, stayed with alone and while they have been weird they were never abusive to me. I didn’t feel that any type of abuse would happen with my son, but I felt a little uncertain of how well they could care for him.
No parent is perfect, including me. There will always be accidents and mishaps along the way. So please don’t assume or insinuate that I’m careless and would purposely put my son in danger. I would never.
November 17th, 2009 @ 8:04 pm
Now you know, no more visits to your Aunty’s place.
I do agree that if you don’t feel one hundred percent comfortable with an environment that you shouldnt leave your son there. But, now you know.
November 18th, 2009 @ 5:37 am
How do you feel 100% confident with putting you child in someone else’s care? That’s not possible because as a mother I assume it’s a given no one loves our children the way we do and therefore wouldn’t care for them 100% of the way we could care for them. Do you know 100% of what goes on when you’re not around?
We may know people well, but we don’t know them 100% in and out, through and through simply because none of us read minds and are incapable of knowing what a person is thinking at all times. How many husbands, wives, mothers and fathers take the lives of their own children? People they were supposed to 100% trust? I think it’s better not to hit that comfort level, to NOT trust anyone 100% out of precaution. It’s really a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation..
I just don’t feel this is a subject to be preachy about and claim that it could never happen to you, because it can happen to anyone. As long as a parent didn’t just dropping their child off on the street corner I don’t see how you can fault them for not trusting anyone 100% or blame them for something that may have happened when they thought they could trust someone enough.
November 18th, 2009 @ 8:33 am
Your aunt used to try to breastfeed you and you let your son go over there?
That’s all I need to know.
November 18th, 2009 @ 11:51 am
“Do you not watch the news? ”
If you based all of your judgments on the news you would never leave the house again. It’s hard to believe a family member or close friend would do bad things but hey, it happens. Does that mean we should all expect our husbands of cheating or that the daycare workers we select are abusing our children while we’re working?
I mean, hey, it’s on the news, right?
As to things like that from your early childhood (yes, 7 IS still early)- it’s hard to remember it sometimes. Things get pushed to the back of your mind and you forget the details. I have some of my own fuzzy memories from that age and I can’t honestly tell you if things were “all in my mind” or somehow unhealthy. Kids just don’t have the skills to process that information. As time goes by you forget because really, we all have some weird experiences that we don’t think of day to day. Life goes on. You have your own kids. “Maybes” from your childhood just don’t seem as important anymore so you don’t think of them.
November 29th, 2009 @ 4:48 am
B – I’m sorry I didn’t make this blog entry seeking for your approval. I honestly don’t give a damn what you do and don’t need to know lol. Go focus on your job that you’re supposed to be doing while you post on my blog instead of playing keyboard warrior with me. I love Coke and would hate to have you screw it up.
November 29th, 2009 @ 4:49 am
Satsuki – I agree completely.
June 25th, 2010 @ 12:16 am
I agree, its not fair to attack someone who is not the guilty party. as far as not feeling %100, i don’t think you ever should trust someone %100 with your child unless you know how they raised you, because the moment you put your trust into someone you didnt grow up trusting you put your gaurd down and are open to anything, because that total trust will blind you from your intuition.