Comments on: Sitter Abuse http://newsinglemama.com/583/sitter-abuse/ I am a single mother of a biracial baby boy just trying to make it on my own. This journey is hard, yet rewarding. Blogging is my therapy, these words are my heart, and people doing better and being inspired by what I have written is my passion and hope. Sun, 25 Jul 2010 18:38:40 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Marcy http://newsinglemama.com/583/sitter-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-832 Marcy Fri, 25 Jun 2010 05:16:28 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=583#comment-832 I agree, its not fair to attack someone who is not the guilty party. as far as not feeling %100, i don't think you ever should trust someone %100 with your child unless you know how they raised you, because the moment you put your trust into someone you didnt grow up trusting you put your gaurd down and are open to anything, because that total trust will blind you from your intuition. I agree, its not fair to attack someone who is not the guilty party. as far as not feeling %100, i don’t think you ever should trust someone %100 with your child unless you know how they raised you, because the moment you put your trust into someone you didnt grow up trusting you put your gaurd down and are open to anything, because that total trust will blind you from your intuition.

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/583/sitter-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-669 Bridgette Sun, 29 Nov 2009 09:49:10 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=583#comment-669 Satsuki - I agree completely. Satsuki – I agree completely.

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/583/sitter-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-668 Bridgette Sun, 29 Nov 2009 09:48:43 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=583#comment-668 B - I'm sorry I didn't make this blog entry seeking for your approval. I honestly don't give a damn what you do and don't need to know lol. Go focus on your job that you're supposed to be doing while you post on my blog instead of playing keyboard warrior with me. I love Coke and would hate to have you screw it up. B – I’m sorry I didn’t make this blog entry seeking for your approval. I honestly don’t give a damn what you do and don’t need to know lol. Go focus on your job that you’re supposed to be doing while you post on my blog instead of playing keyboard warrior with me. I love Coke and would hate to have you screw it up.

]]> By: Satsuki http://newsinglemama.com/583/sitter-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-664 Satsuki Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:51:09 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=583#comment-664 "Do you not watch the news? " If you based all of your judgments on the news you would never leave the house again. It's hard to believe a family member or close friend would do bad things but hey, it happens. Does that mean we should all expect our husbands of cheating or that the daycare workers we select are abusing our children while we're working? I mean, hey, it's on the news, right? As to things like that from your early childhood (yes, 7 IS still early)- it's hard to remember it sometimes. Things get pushed to the back of your mind and you forget the details. I have some of my own fuzzy memories from that age and I can't honestly tell you if things were "all in my mind" or somehow unhealthy. Kids just don't have the skills to process that information. As time goes by you forget because really, we all have some weird experiences that we don't think of day to day. Life goes on. You have your own kids. "Maybes" from your childhood just don't seem as important anymore so you don't think of them. “Do you not watch the news? ”

If you based all of your judgments on the news you would never leave the house again. It’s hard to believe a family member or close friend would do bad things but hey, it happens. Does that mean we should all expect our husbands of cheating or that the daycare workers we select are abusing our children while we’re working?

I mean, hey, it’s on the news, right?

As to things like that from your early childhood (yes, 7 IS still early)- it’s hard to remember it sometimes. Things get pushed to the back of your mind and you forget the details. I have some of my own fuzzy memories from that age and I can’t honestly tell you if things were “all in my mind” or somehow unhealthy. Kids just don’t have the skills to process that information. As time goes by you forget because really, we all have some weird experiences that we don’t think of day to day. Life goes on. You have your own kids. “Maybes” from your childhood just don’t seem as important anymore so you don’t think of them.

]]> By: B http://newsinglemama.com/583/sitter-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-663 B Wed, 18 Nov 2009 13:33:51 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=583#comment-663 Your aunt used to try to breastfeed you and you let your son go over there? That's all I need to know. Your aunt used to try to breastfeed you and you let your son go over there?

That’s all I need to know.

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/583/sitter-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-662 Bridgette Wed, 18 Nov 2009 10:37:39 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=583#comment-662 How do you feel 100% confident with putting you child in someone else's care? That's not possible because as a mother I assume it's a given no one loves our children the way we do and therefore wouldn't care for them 100% of the way we could care for them. Do you know 100% of what goes on when you're not around? We may know people well, but we don't know them 100% in and out, through and through simply because none of us read minds and are incapable of knowing what a person is thinking at all times. How many husbands, wives, mothers and fathers take the lives of their own children? People they were supposed to 100% trust? I think it's better not to hit that comfort level, to NOT trust anyone 100% out of precaution. It's really a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation.. I just don't feel this is a subject to be preachy about and claim that it could never happen to you, because it can happen to anyone. As long as a parent didn't just dropping their child off on the street corner I don't see how you can fault them for not trusting anyone 100% or blame them for something that may have happened when they thought they could trust someone enough. How do you feel 100% confident with putting you child in someone else’s care? That’s not possible because as a mother I assume it’s a given no one loves our children the way we do and therefore wouldn’t care for them 100% of the way we could care for them. Do you know 100% of what goes on when you’re not around?

We may know people well, but we don’t know them 100% in and out, through and through simply because none of us read minds and are incapable of knowing what a person is thinking at all times. How many husbands, wives, mothers and fathers take the lives of their own children? People they were supposed to 100% trust? I think it’s better not to hit that comfort level, to NOT trust anyone 100% out of precaution. It’s really a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation..

I just don’t feel this is a subject to be preachy about and claim that it could never happen to you, because it can happen to anyone. As long as a parent didn’t just dropping their child off on the street corner I don’t see how you can fault them for not trusting anyone 100% or blame them for something that may have happened when they thought they could trust someone enough.

]]> By: Tam http://newsinglemama.com/583/sitter-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-661 Tam Wed, 18 Nov 2009 01:04:19 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=583#comment-661 Now you know, no more visits to your Aunty's place. I do agree that if you don't feel one hundred percent comfortable with an environment that you shouldnt leave your son there. But, now you know. Now you know, no more visits to your Aunty’s place.

I do agree that if you don’t feel one hundred percent comfortable with an environment that you shouldnt leave your son there. But, now you know.

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/583/sitter-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-660 Bridgette Tue, 17 Nov 2009 23:15:45 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=583#comment-660 These are people I have grown up with, stayed with alone and while they have been weird they were never abusive to me. I didn't feel that any type of abuse would happen with my son, but I felt a little uncertain of how well they could care for him. No parent is perfect, including me. There will always be accidents and mishaps along the way. So please don't assume or insinuate that I'm careless and would purposely put my son in danger. I would never. These are people I have grown up with, stayed with alone and while they have been weird they were never abusive to me. I didn’t feel that any type of abuse would happen with my son, but I felt a little uncertain of how well they could care for him.

No parent is perfect, including me. There will always be accidents and mishaps along the way. So please don’t assume or insinuate that I’m careless and would purposely put my son in danger. I would never.

]]> By: B http://newsinglemama.com/583/sitter-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-659 B Tue, 17 Nov 2009 18:27:56 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/?p=583#comment-659 Why in the world would you let your son go ANYWHERE where you don't feel comfortable. You need to feel 100 PERCENT comfortable of anyone that cares for your child. 100 PERCENT! Do you not watch the news? Please do better. Children are helpless. Why in the world would you let your son go ANYWHERE where you don’t feel comfortable. You need to feel 100 PERCENT comfortable of anyone that cares for your child. 100 PERCENT!

Do you not watch the news?

Please do better. Children are helpless.

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