UPDATE on “Sitter Abuse”
Posted on | November 18, 2009 | 2 Comments
So I got my son back this morning and out of precaution I checked him over and he seems fine. Nothing out of the ordinary, no bruises or punctures and he still seems like a happy baby which is good. I feel relief.
I will go on and assume nothing horrible happened to him while at my aunts, but I will also assume my uncle did fuck with him in some way or another since he said he did. Even if it was just tickling him or making noises to wake him up that’s not acceptable. He’s just a baby who needs his rest. So he will no longer go over there unsupervised.
Some of you may wonder why I let him go over there when I said I was unsure of if I trusted them .. the thing is, as a mom, I don’t really trust anyone with my son but myself because I know no one loves him the way I do. While he’s away I wonder what all could possibly happen accidental or not that I have no control over since I’m not there. There are also many cases where you may think you know and trust someone, but then they do horrible things to people for some reason or another that you never thought they would be capable of doing. No one knows another person 100% probably for the simple fact that none of us read minds to know what all goes on through a person’s head.
Sometimes it’s hard to decipher where I’m being paranoid or where I’m feeling valid motherly instincts. In this particular instance these were not just strangers I dropped him off at. They are people I’ve known all of my life, and while my aunt did weird things to me as a child she never full on abused me sexually or otherwise. My uncle was always uninvolved so at the time I felt he would be OK in their care. He very well could still possibly be. This all could be a misunderstanding and I may be overreacting, but because I AM a good parent and I DO care about my son I have made the decision not to put him in that situation again.
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November 22nd, 2009 @ 10:54 pm
I hate that you feel that you need to be defensive. It’s your blog. You’re HONEST (*gasp*) and I respect and admire that.
My own mother (who did not raise me) makes me insanely uncomfortable around my daughter but I almost feel like it’s my obligation to let her watch Aubs from time to time.
I understand what you’re saying here. Forget those people who feel the need to judge and talk down to you. It really must be nice being so perfect… unfortunately, the rest of us can’t relate. Oh well.
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November 29th, 2009 @ 4:51 am
Thank you. I do hate when people feel the need to say someone else is a bad parent because behind their keyboards, having nothing to do with a situation they WOULD NEVER DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT! *gaaaaaasp*
But I also felt like I didn’t make myself clear in my first entry because I was panicking when I wrote it.