Posted on | August 3, 2011 | 6 Comments
Question: I have a friend who is pregnant–she is about 6 months or so. She is very frustrated. She feels like nobody understands what she is going through. I think she needs therapy or something. What can I do as a friend to help? Can you write back or write a blog about it. Maybe you can list what your friends did during your hard times. Anything would help.
Answer: Mandy – first of all I want to say you are a great friend for researching ways to help your friend out through this highly emotional time of her life. The only thing I can say is be a shoulder she can cry on and a listening ear for her to vent her pain. Whenever possible do things to help her take her mind off things .. go to the movies, shopping, whatever she finds fun.
That’s about all my friends were able to do for me that help, like most painful things it in life, this too takes time to heal. I was broken my whole pregnancy and much of the first few months after I had the baby. To be honest I was never my same self after it all. In some ways I’m stronger. I learned some life lessons, I have a beautiful, brilliant little boy, and there are remnants of the old me … but but overall I’m a fucked up person. Kinda like being traumatized. I’m now bipolar and need medication to get through most days. My son’s father and I are close now and I still get angry and lash out on him about the past. I don’t know when I will ever stop feeling this way and I’m not sure if this outcome would have been avoidable or not.
It may be beneficial to suggest her some professional therapy to help out. Maybe some other single moms will read this and comment more helpful tips for your situation.
Good luck and best wishes to your friend.