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Permission to Propose

Posted on | August 28, 2011 | 7 Comments

I do have an update about the entry I wrote last week, about how my mom was jealous of Daddy and his family, their roles in our lives and how she wanted them out. Well last Sunday I guess something happened at church and that night she called me and asked how she could write Daddy. I asked her why and she said she felt wrong and figured she should reach out to him and make the best of their relationship since he is the father of her grandbaby and will always be there in some way or another. I found that surprising, sudden, but nice enough so I gave her his address. Turns out that next day she wrote him a nice letter accepting him in and she also sent him a check for $50 to put on his books. He was so shocked and thrilled. As was I.

However, the most shocking part for me was when he wrote her back. She didn’t have her glasses, so when the mail came she brought the letter over and asked me if I would like to read it aloud to her and I did. He thanked her, he talked about his love for Jack, what life is like in prison, then at the end of the letter he began telling her how much he loves me, how I’m everything he’s ever wanted in a woman, how blessed he is to still have me in his life and how he feels he can’t live without me .. and then came the shocker … he said he would like to propose and he asked for her permission to marry me. This is news to me. I had no idea, so I guess apparently I was not supposed to read the letter. Yowzers!

Wow. I’m just completely floored. I don’t know what to think or say. Jack and I are supposed to go visit in a couple of weeks and I’m wondering if that’s when he will do it. Just .. wow. Wow. I have no speech right now.


7 Responses to “Permission to Propose”

  1. Jasleen
    September 3rd, 2011 @ 9:57 am

    I am sorry but you really need to be careful. You know what type of person he is, HE SHOWED YOU…right now, he’s just talking prison talk! Go to prisontalk.com and check out when the relationship is over forum. Dont get duped!

  2. Bridgette
    September 3rd, 2011 @ 9:34 pm

    Jasleen – Yes, I know marriage is a big decision. I remember the past. I’m a member of prisontalk, have been for a year and I know many woman get duped, but on the other hand there are many woman on there who have long, happy relationships. So, it really depends. No two relationships are the same, prison or not. Every relationship anyone gets into is a chance.

    I know you are looking out for me and I appreciate it, I’m just tired of people thinking I’m an idiot woman who is just desperate to have a relationship with my “baby daddy” and can’t see the bigger picture. As much as people would like to think that’s the issue here it’s not at all. I’m just tired of defending myself.

  3. emily
    September 4th, 2011 @ 6:52 pm

    Don’t defend yourself babe.. Nobody knows the
    Relationship BUT the two of you I’m positive there
    Were hard times between the 2 of you but probably
    A lot of good times too.. You were pregnant and wanted
    Him around so of course all your posts back then
    You were upset.. Shit all my prego posts on my babydad
    I talked mad shit about him.. Still do.. Haha

    As with ANY relationship just look out for
    Yourself and Jack.

    Good luck girl hope everything works out ;)

  4. Bridgette
    September 9th, 2011 @ 11:21 pm

    Thank you so much, Emily. I know people don’t know that I get the same talk over and over and over. And you are correct, he was a giant jerk 3 years ago, and I talked mad shit about him which he knows about and feels he deserved. For the past year and change things have changed and he’s one of my best friends. It’s just something that gradually happened … we bonded as parents, then friends, then a love formed. It’s definitely not conventional and it’s not easy .. but I don’t think if we were to engage in a full on romance or marriage it would be out of desperation or doomed for failure.

    I will blog more in depth about the situation another time, cuz I know I haven’t been clear exactly how things have transpired to be as such.

  5. Helen Terims
    June 10th, 2012 @ 10:03 pm

    Wow, I am so happy for you. Even if you encountered a lot of downfalls in your past blogs now it is the time for your happiness. For sure you are so touch and you couldn’t find words to say about the shocking proposal he did.
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