Too Much Information
Posted on | March 21, 2009 | 4 Comments
I have a habit of TMI. Maybe because at the time it doesn’t seem like TMI since I’m an open person who really has nothing to hide, but I’m beginning to think that I go too far. For instance today two of my family members asked if I had spoken to Daddy recently and instead of saying something like “No. He’s no longer in our lives” I went into the quick, simplified version of what happened the last time we talked and why we don’t talk anymore. Now I only share this much info with family, but I’m beginning to regret it as I take into consideration what could possibly be told to my son when he’s a little older. They know Daddy is an addict, they know he’s a spoiled, rich
I vow from now on: NO MORE PERSONAL BUSINESS. But I fear it’s too late.
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I took a trip to the ER last night because of the cramps and pains I’ve been having which lead to sharp “contracting” pains. I honestly have every symptom for Preterm Labor so I had been getting very worried, even if eventually the symptoms or pains would go away. I made it out to the hospital which is the same one I will give birth in, they strapped me up to various machines on the bed and left me there for a couple of hours to be observed. Everything was fine. The good thing about it all is that I learned it’s a nice, clean quiet facility with a super nice staff.
My mama was there and brought my aunt and together they sat in the room with me. The nurse asked me a series of personal questions that I didn’t feel comfortable answering in front of them so I lied. One of the questions included “Have you ever been physically or verbally abused?” which I did answer truthfully. Shamefully and hesitantly I said “Yes …”
The nurse asked “By who?”
Hesitantly again, “My sons father.”
As soon as the nurse left my mom gave me a verbal beating that I am not to bring up my baby’s father ever again, that I need to get over him and not talk bout him and accept that he’s no longer in the picture. She actually seemed humiliated as she always does when I mention him especially in front of others. I don’t know why she acts like this. I didn’t go into details, I didn’t give out personal information about him, and I can’t help it if every time I have an emergency she insists on bringing my aunt even when I ask her not to.
Which is another I don’t understand and angers me a little with her.For some reason she insists that we need extra support. I call her because I need support, then she calls someone because SHE insists she needs support. She will call my aunt who is no doctor and has no children every time I hurt to ask her what I should do. How would she know? She will drag her out of bed at 2 am to come with her to visit me and if I’m OK she gets mad at ME for waking my aunt up and bringing her out there when all is well.
I think she and I will need to talk about this.
Oh the drama.
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March 22nd, 2009 @ 5:59 pm
Hi Bridgette. I just found your blog. You and your family are definitely in my prayers.
Where is YOUR father? What is your relationship like with him?
Be blessed.
March 22nd, 2009 @ 9:41 pm
It's hard to stay as relaxed as you need to be when other people are bringing so much stress into your life!
If you ever need to vent, you have my email.
March 22nd, 2009 @ 11:49 pm
My father died a long time ago.
March 22nd, 2009 @ 11:49 pm
Thanks Nicole