Comments on: Is This Really My Life As I’ll Know It? http://newsinglemama.com/83/is-this-really-my-life-as-ill-know-it/ I am a single mother of a biracial baby boy just trying to make it on my own. This journey is hard, yet rewarding. Blogging is my therapy, these words are my heart, and people doing better and being inspired by what I have written is my passion and hope. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 17:17:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Amanda http://newsinglemama.com/83/is-this-really-my-life-as-ill-know-it/comment-page-1/#comment-632 Amanda Sun, 25 Oct 2009 08:41:26 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/83/is-this-really-my-life-as-ill-know-it/#comment-632 OMG!... my mom was the same exact way and still is! and just like you I always vowed that I would never end up like that but I feel that im going down the same path now, even for the fact that the way my ex turned out to be reminds me so much of how my dad treated my mom and I never wanted all that to happen to me. I doubt I will make the same mistakes my mom has made and still does make by letting my dad and his rude ass family walk all over here and put her down because I know im stronger than that. but im scared to be alone for the rest of my life, working and working and doing nothing else. I will give my life to my child but I don't want to not have a life. All my friends already have kids and most are single and they go out all the time and pick up tons of guys and all that stuff that i guess you should do in your 20's but sometimes I felt it was a bit too much when you have a kid. I want to figure out how to balance out the two, be there for my child and work hard for my child and love my child but still have fun and some "me" time every now and then. .-= Check Out Amanda's Blog! blog "<a href="http://janina-youngsinglepregnant.blogspot.com/2009/10/thinking-back-in-time.html" rel="nofollow">Thinking back in time</a>" =-. OMG!… my mom was the same exact way and still is! and just like you I always vowed that I would never end up like that but I feel that im going down the same path now, even for the fact that the way my ex turned out to be reminds me so much of how my dad treated my mom and I never wanted all that to happen to me. I doubt I will make the same mistakes my mom has made and still does make by letting my dad and his rude ass family walk all over here and put her down because I know im stronger than that. but im scared to be alone for the rest of my life, working and working and doing nothing else. I will give my life to my child but I don’t want to not have a life. All my friends already have kids and most are single and they go out all the time and pick up tons of guys and all that stuff that i guess you should do in your 20′s but sometimes I felt it was a bit too much when you have a kid. I want to figure out how to balance out the two, be there for my child and work hard for my child and love my child but still have fun and some “me” time every now and then.
.-= Check Out Amanda’s Blog! blog "Thinking back in time" =-.

]]> By: Hef http://newsinglemama.com/83/is-this-really-my-life-as-ill-know-it/comment-page-1/#comment-125 Hef Wed, 11 Feb 2009 01:37:00 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/83/is-this-really-my-life-as-ill-know-it/#comment-125 We just gradually grew apart.<br/><br/>We partied a lot together before I got preggo, and once I stopped all of that and starting focusing on making a life for the babe, we didn't have a lot in common anymore.<br/><br/>She didn't come to the hospital after I had my daughter because of the $2 parking charge.<br/><br/>You have been very strong through all of this... and you will continue to be amazed at the strength you have within yourself. We just gradually grew apart.

We partied a lot together before I got preggo, and once I stopped all of that and starting focusing on making a life for the babe, we didn’t have a lot in common anymore.

She didn’t come to the hospital after I had my daughter because of the $2 parking charge.

You have been very strong through all of this… and you will continue to be amazed at the strength you have within yourself.

]]> By: Steph http://newsinglemama.com/83/is-this-really-my-life-as-ill-know-it/comment-page-1/#comment-123 Steph Tue, 10 Feb 2009 14:30:00 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/83/is-this-really-my-life-as-ill-know-it/#comment-123 Your life is what you make it. You can still live a happy life being a single mom. It will be HARD, but this doesnt mean your life will be lonely. If your friends left b/c of this, then what the hell is wrong with them?? They were never your friends. You CAN do it! You seem so strong and you WILL do it!!! Your life is what you make it. You can still live a happy life being a single mom. It will be HARD, but this doesnt mean your life will be lonely. If your friends left b/c of this, then what the hell is wrong with them?? They were never your friends. You CAN do it! You seem so strong and you WILL do it!!!

]]> By: Bridgette http://newsinglemama.com/83/is-this-really-my-life-as-ill-know-it/comment-page-1/#comment-122 Bridgette Tue, 10 Feb 2009 12:36:00 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/83/is-this-really-my-life-as-ill-know-it/#comment-122 Thanks Heather. I love your comments they always get to me!<br/><br/>I've seen it as a bittersweet thing that I'm finding out whose really there for me and who isn't. But it hurts the fuck out of my little aching heart to have so much rejection piled up on me at once. Sometimes I'm impressed with how strong my heart is being and all it's handling within this short amount of time and still it manages to beat on and on. My life continues, I keep treading.<br/><br/>Why did your best friend leave? Any explanation or did she gradually just disappear? Thanks Heather. I love your comments they always get to me!

I’ve seen it as a bittersweet thing that I’m finding out whose really there for me and who isn’t. But it hurts the fuck out of my little aching heart to have so much rejection piled up on me at once. Sometimes I’m impressed with how strong my heart is being and all it’s handling within this short amount of time and still it manages to beat on and on. My life continues, I keep treading.

Why did your best friend leave? Any explanation or did she gradually just disappear?

]]> By: Hef http://newsinglemama.com/83/is-this-really-my-life-as-ill-know-it/comment-page-1/#comment-121 Hef Tue, 10 Feb 2009 03:01:00 +0000 http://newsinglemama.com/83/is-this-really-my-life-as-ill-know-it/#comment-121 You will lose a lot of people in your life throughout this experience... but you'll also learn who your true friends are, who truly loves you. And while your posse may be smaller, it will be tighter than ever. And, in time, you'll add more people to your life, and they will be true, valuable, solid people because you'll only have room for the best. It's hard now, I TOALLY get that, but it will get easier (I feel like I say that a lot, but it WILL dammit.) <br/><br/>My very best friend, the only one that I'd confided in when I suspected that I was pregnant, was essentially out of my life by the time my little one was born. She's met my daughter MAYBE five times in 2 1/2 years. It happens. And, yeah, it sucks. <br/><br/>But new people will come, people you can relate to, people that will be there for you AND your little one. It'll take time, but they will come.<br/><br/>Your friends now may be having a very difficult time understanding and processing what is happening with you. Maybe, hopefully, they will come to terms with it in time. But if they don't, it's their loss.<br/><br/>Your life is changing significantly, you may not recognize yourself or your life right now, but you'll slip into the new role and you'll be happier than ever.<br/><br/>You can still have so much, honey. You can and you will.<br/><br/>Your mother made a choice to live her life that way. And you can make a choice to live differently.<br/><br/>Hang in there.<br/><br/>P.S.Those pregnancy hormones blow. You will lose a lot of people in your life throughout this experience… but you’ll also learn who your true friends are, who truly loves you. And while your posse may be smaller, it will be tighter than ever. And, in time, you’ll add more people to your life, and they will be true, valuable, solid people because you’ll only have room for the best. It’s hard now, I TOALLY get that, but it will get easier (I feel like I say that a lot, but it WILL dammit.)

My very best friend, the only one that I’d confided in when I suspected that I was pregnant, was essentially out of my life by the time my little one was born. She’s met my daughter MAYBE five times in 2 1/2 years. It happens. And, yeah, it sucks.

But new people will come, people you can relate to, people that will be there for you AND your little one. It’ll take time, but they will come.

Your friends now may be having a very difficult time understanding and processing what is happening with you. Maybe, hopefully, they will come to terms with it in time. But if they don’t, it’s their loss.

Your life is changing significantly, you may not recognize yourself or your life right now, but you’ll slip into the new role and you’ll be happier than ever.

You can still have so much, honey. You can and you will.

Your mother made a choice to live her life that way. And you can make a choice to live differently.

Hang in there.

P.S.Those pregnancy hormones blow.

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