Cussed Daddy Out
Posted on | February 12, 2009 | 5 Comments
With my pregnancy half over I’d been fighting back and forth with the decision of whether or not to tell Daddy anything about his baby as sort of an FYI just so he can never say that even though he’s made no moves to include himself in our lives, that I never did anything to let him know about his kid. You know, things like the upcoming ultrasound, the due date, how well the baby is doing, basic things like that.
I decided “What can it hurt?” so last night I gave him a call and it went like this ..
Daddy: “Hello?”
Me: “Hey! How you doin?”
D: “Who is this?”
M: *hesitating over what smartass thing to say* “Bridgette …”
D: “Oh hey whats up?”
M: “You sound like shit .. whats wrong with you?” (literally he sounded on the brink of death and my curiosity got the best of me.)
D: “I’m sick lemme call you back” *click*
Arrgh. Ass. Seriously that was that. You’re the mother of my child. A little piece of me is growing inside of you, but I’m “too sick” to see what you want. *click*
Oooh but I’d come too far. I wasn’t just going to quietly walk away like I always do. His stanky attitude pisses me off, not because it hurts me but because it’s directed to our child and I think the baby deserves a little more respect than he gives, especially when he was the one who initially wanted the baby SO bad. So I decided to leave him a message which basically said “I only called you about our baby, to tell you things that I thought you should know. If you wanna play games that’s fine. Just don’t say I never warned you”
He came back at me with “I’m sooooo sick, yo. And for your own good don’t ever threaten me again”
Let’s just say I flipped my lid after this and went off on him, cussing him out.
It wasn’t as gracious as I hoped it would be, and in the end he learned absolutely nothing about the baby like I intended (doesn’t deserve to anyway), but it was a relief to finally tell him all about himself and how much of a piece of shit I find him to be. I’m sick of being nice and cordial to him when he treats me and our child like shit.
So, yeah … that was that.
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February 12th, 2009 @ 11:25 am
It’s been two years and I’ve still never told my ex what a dumbass he is. Congrats on getting it off your chest sooner rather than later. I’m just bidding my time, holding my tongue, waiting for the day he steps out of line. I’ve got a running list and someday he’ll hear every item on it.
February 12th, 2009 @ 3:50 pm
Haha, oh believe me there’s much more I wanted to say. Like the little wimp that he is he ran off and blocked me before I was done with him. But it was nice to finally let him know that the Bridgette who put up with his abuse, who bit her tongue, who kept her cool around him no matter what for the sake of whatever is gone. Shes now a mother, scorned yet strong and roaring on the defense of her child.
His bs will be tolerated no more!
I hope you get to experience such liberation as well
February 13th, 2009 @ 12:01 am
You needed that.
You needed to get that all out. It’s better for you and better for your baby if you aren’t holding in all of those terrible feelings.
You probably feel like a weight has been lifted off of your shoulders
I’ve completely done the exact same thing, although I waited until I was good and drunk after the baby was here and I didn’t stop where you were forced to. I got it alllll out. lol
ALL of it.
Many times.
I can hardly believe he even put up with it without hanging up on me or telling me off. It was probably the guilt inside of him…
But be careful sweetie. Don’t let him threaten you like that. You never know when theoretical threats are going to become real and physical threats.
I got lucky with my son’s father. Even though sometimes it doesn’t feel like it.
I couldn’t have asked for a better one-night-stand-resulting-in-the-love-of-my-life situation.
You’re a ver strong girl and you’re going to make an amazing mother.
You’ve got your life straight, you can’t force Daddy to do the same. It’s his choice to act the way he is and acting that way around your child is going to be toxic in his life…
You can’t force someone to be a good person.
IMHO: He’s a pathetic excuse for a man, he’s giving unmarried fathers a bad name and he’s perpetuating a terrible deadbeat dad stereotype.
Did I mention he’s pathetic.
Maybe it’s me being a woman — being the one that gets to be pregnant and connect with your child on a completely different and unreal level but, how can you not immediately love that little being inside of you??
(Okay not IMMEDIATELY but you know…)
I’m rooting for you here girl
So is every other mother out there — single or not.
(I got your email! I’m going to go through my boxes of baby stuff and check and then get back to you!)
February 13th, 2009 @ 10:17 am
Thank you so much Nicole
Really!
I wish I could have said more to him, followed by smacking him around a little bit for sense LOL.
But he just went on to show me once again much how much of a boy he is.
March 21st, 2009 @ 6:34 am
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