First my cousin approached me a few weeks ago and asked me if she could be the one to throw me a shower which I agreed to. I guess she also approached my mom and asked her to co-host the shower with her, which eventually lead to her putting the shower off completely on my mom because she decided she didn’t have enough money to throw it. I had no idea this happened until yesterday as I was left completely in the dark. Ok that’s fine.

I went over my mom’s place and she sat down with me and said “Ok I’m actually throwing your shower for you and it will be on May 31st at 1 pm .. and here are the invitations.”
Whoa whoa whoa .. ok first she picked a date and time without consulting me or first asking if it were OK and then she picked out these ugly, tacky looking invitations because she thought they were cute without asking me what type I wanted. The date I could be cool with, the invitations I could not.

“Well, I’m not buying anymore invitations” she protested. “These are the ones I picked out, these are the ones we’re using. You’re just going to have to deal with it”

The rest of the convo went as follows:

“No I don’t have to deal with it. It’s my baby and his party, not yours. It’s a one time occasion and I feel like I should be able to have things the way I want them. You can’t keep going through this whole thing doing what YOU want and not asking me first!”

“Well, you asked me to throw the party so I-”

“No I did NOT ask you to throw the party. I didn’t ask anyone to throw the party. I actually just learned today that you were the one throwing the party”

“Well fine I won’t throw it. You do every thing yourself. I don’t want to talk about it anymore.”

Way to have a sour attitude just because I asked that I be kept in the loop and for everyone involved to remember it’s my day and I would prefer for it to be done with my style. If that makes me a bitch then so be it I guess. I was as nice as possible about it all and she had to be so defensive and bratty. Yes invitations will most likely be something people just throw away, but they’re also keepsakes for some including myself. So if I want them to be pretty and nice then they should be pretty and nice!

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Next I went to go pick out carseats, a swing and an activity station to put on the registry at BRU. My mom brought along two of my aunts. Several times my aunts wanted to pick out the cheapest most basic things or things they liked. I said no, if I’m going to have them purchased I want them purchased right. I want the best quality, the safest product and something he will enjoy .. not just any ol thing because it’s the cheapest they have. I can’t tell you how many times I caught them rolling their eyes at me when they meant to do it behind my back.

Eventually they went on to say that my baby doesn’t need or deserve such nice things and if I want the expensive stuff I should use my own money to buy them.

That totally rubbed me wrong. First of all it’s just nasty to say. Second of all if I think my son deserves the best then he gets the best. If they don’t want to buy the stuff they don’t have to, but who are they to say what he needs and doesn’t need. What he deserves and doesn’t deserve?

I’m spoiling him? Ok maybe a little, but so what! Can I not? I’m not being a snob because some times cheap things are just as good, but when it comes to large things that could be a hazard to his safety? You bet your ass I’m gonna be picky.

So I narrowed down the carseats and the swings I wanted -about 2 or 3 each and put them on the registry to research later. Little did I know that my mom ran off copies of the registry and started distributing them to people. I told her beforehand that they registry was not ready! I was just there to see and test things for myself and then pick out the final product online after research.

“Well you’re just doing things backwards and messing everything up”, she said.

OMFG! This is going to be looooooooong.